Couple talking in living room

1Ask about his day.

This one may seem obvious, but when was the last time you asked about your partner’s day and really listened? We can get so used to asking the question that we barely notice the response. Rather than checking email while he answers, stop what you’re doing and invest some time in finding out what he did and how he feels about his day.

2Ask advice about something.

Most guys love to give advice and feel like they’re helping you out. Whether you’re having problems with a friend or need to bounce ideas off someone about an upcoming work presentation, see what he has to say. He’ll appreciate you including him, and just might set precedent for asking each other for advice on a more regular basis.

3Discuss a noteworthy news item.

Whether you read the paper, get your news online or read up on your iPhone, bring up an item that you think has potential for conversation and ask him how he feels about it. If he hasn’t read about it yet, fill him in or ask him what he thinks the most noteworthy news item of the day was. Discuss.

4Debate something.

Take 10 to 15 minutes to research a chosen issue, pick a side and make some notes. Then, each of you can come back to the table to debate your side. This is a great way to reignite the conversational spark in your relationship — and learn something new about current events, too.

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