Finding the right man requires that you find yourself first. This is vitally important! If you are looking for a fulfilling and meaningful long term relationship, you must know what is the thing that makes you happy. If you know what makes you happy, you can then find a man who can make you happy.
Stay single while you try and figure out what exactly it is that makes your heart pound, your eyes to widen and your blood to flow with exhilaration. You could be into high intensity sports like wakeboarding or skiing. Perhaps its helping out at a shelter for animals or at the shelter for the needy that gets your heart all warm and fuzzy. Maybe you like watching baseball or basketball. It could even be doing flower arrangement or pottery that makes you feel serene and at ease with yourself.
See the thing here is when you have a passion for something, you'll want to do those things. And when you go to places to do those things, you'll find men who do the same things as you do. Sounds like a plan right?
You'll be able to meet and talk to men who have similar interests and this will create the foundations of a strong relationship. The pursuit of passion will only serve to bring you and your man closer together as you two grow and share experiences, joy, sadness and a whole spectrum of other emotions together.
Always, always be emotionally honest with yourself! Evaluate and re-evaluate your feelings towards him. Are you just physically attracted to him? Or do his passions, purpose and values connect with you on a deeper level? If it is just his physique, remember, one day he will grow old and he will lose his youthful visage fitness. If you're still with him when that happens, what will make you want to stay?
Remember, you have to be a complete person first before you can find someone who will share your life with you in a meaningful way. Incomplete people seek others to complete themselves and this always ends up poorly for one or the other. People who are complete on their own find others who complement them.
Now, a complete person is someone who is perfectly capable of being happy on their own. They prefer to be in a relationship because they are attracted to the other person on a deep level. But if they were to not be in a relationship, they would not fall apart and start becoming depressed and self destructive.
A complete woman is happy and healthy, has a passion and strives to better her life. This energy is irresistible to men! Not only will you meet and attract more men, these men that are attracted to you are also whole and complete. They are less likely to be jerks and selfish men looking to take advantage of needy and incomplete girls.
Know yourself, know what you want and know who you want. It'll help you avoid the jerks and find the right guy [: